Thank You Notes - Etiquette and Wording Samples

Yes, we all love to receive gifts, and weddings are a perfect occasion for gift-giving, as friends and loved ones customarily honor the commitment of the newly betrothed by showering them with wedding gifts. As the happy couple, just remember to always feel privileged, not entitled. Approach thank-you notes with as much thought and organization as the rest of your wedding planning process.

Rules & Etiquette

Send thank you notes to acknowledge everything from place settings to gifts of time or talent. Remember, a separate, handwritten note must be sent for each wedding present or act of kindness. Start sending thank yous as soon as gifts arrive, even if it is before your wedding (but make sure to use your maiden name). Gifts that you receive on your big day should be followed up with a thank you note no later than one month after you return from your honeymoon (now you can use your new last name). To ease the process, keep track of wedding gifts and thank-you cards on the same list of names and addresses used for your invitations. Personalize the thank you cards by ordering them with your monogram, or place a picture from your big day on the front.

What to Say - Wording Samples

Thank you notes are written and signed by one person but should express the gratitude of both the bride and the groom. ("Mike and I sincerely appreciated...") Make direct reference to the gift itself. For monetary gifts, indicate how the money will be used. Whether you specificially mention the amount given is optional. Here are some suggested wording examples to get you started:

To a close friend or relative:

Dearest Aunt Sandy,

Thank you so much for the generous gift. As you know, John and I have been saving for a new home and your contribution will help greatly. We can't wait to have you over for a housewarming party very soon! Thanks again for thinking of us and for sharing in our special day.

To a more distant friend, relative or business colleague:

Dear Mr. & Mrs. Lee,

Thank you so much for the lovely vase. It will go beautifully on our kitchen table, and Meghan and I will think of you each time we use it. Thanks again for sharing our joy.

To someone who couldn't make it to the wedding but still sent a gift:

Dear Denise & Chris,

Thank you both very much for completing our sterling place setting collection. Martin and I look forward to using it at every special dinner we host. We truly missed you both on our special day and look forward to seeing you soon.

To someone who wasn't invited to the wedding but sent a gift anyway:

Dear Lorie & Mike,

Thank you both so much for the thoughtful gift certificate. Amanda and I look forward to purchasing new appliances for our kitchen with it. Thanks again for thinking of us during this special time in our lives.

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